"Those who learn to control their inner experience will be able to determine the quality of their lives, which is as close as any of us can come to being happy."
That pretty much explains the book in one sentence. The rest of the book elaborates on the theme over and over, coming back to it in different ways. It's the "Power of Positive Thinking" for the first decade of the Twenty first century. That doesn't make what Gallagher say any less true, but's its really just re-covering ground that been covered over and over before. It's one in a spate of new books that combines positive thinking with neuroscience and meditation, like The Happyness Hypothesis or Mindfulness or Wisdom: From Philosophy to Neuroscience. As Grayling writes in his review of Wisdom: "polysyllabic confirmation of what common sense and received wisdom knew long ago." While I want to believe in this literature and its insights, it leaves me unsatisfied and unconvinced in the long run. I've spent a lot of time working at meditation and visualization, thought stoppage, and mind control, and somehow it just doesn't really lead to a better life. I've tried reframing my negative emotions and replacing them with positive thoughts, but I'm still the same old putz that I always was--quick to anger, slow to forgive, slovenly in habit. Sometimes I've been able to direct my attention to goals over a relatively long period of time--like a couple of years ago when I had a really satisfying season riding brevets--but most of the time I stew that I'm not getting any closer to any of them.
That being said, Gallagher does have good advice about how we should lead our lives even if we can't follow it. "Optimal human experience" kicks in when we're completely focused on doing something that's both enjoyable and that's also challenging enough to be "just manageable."
Again, much of her advice brings on the "duh" response: "The first step toward any relationship is focusing on someone who returns the favor. If the bond is to become intimate, both parties must commit not only to paying rapt attention to each other, but also to the effort of seeing that person's often very different world which entails lots of communication." "The antidote to leisure time ennui is to pay as much attention to scheduling a productive evening or weekend as you do to your workday." "Nothing is as important as I think it is when I'm focusing on it." "Aware of our limited focusing capacity, I take pains to ensure that electronic media and machines aren't in control of mine."
If nothing else, the book has pointed me back to William James where a lot of Gallagher's thinking is grounded. I want to go back to find out what he has to say. I do seem to go back to James, Emerson, and Thoreau a lot. That doesn't make me a shallow person, does it? Or does it?
Author: Galagher, Winifred
Date Published: 2009
Length: 244 pp & 7hr 45min
electronic print & audio
Narrator: Merlington, Laurel